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Tidbits to nudge and nourish.
Original devotions by Caryl Harvey
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The Lizard and
the Snowball.
A
snowball rolled down a hill and found himself an accidental tourist in downtown Phoenix, Arizona. As he’d passed over the arid
desert ground, he’d picked up rocks and bits of sand, and a very disagreeable lizard. Now, the rocks irritated him and
the sand scrubbed away at him. He started to shrink.
“Give
up,” the lizard said. “Stop, and resign yourself to your fate. Just rest on those pebbles and they won’t
poke you.”
But
the snowball kept on, ignoring the jab of the rocks—not sure of his destination but determined to get there.
“Roll
over to that soft patch of grass,” said the lizard, seeing his chance to jump ship. “Doesn’t it look
peaceful and comfortable over there?”
But
the snowball, now not much more than a white marble, kept to his course.
Finally, he felt himself worn down. The lizard wriggled
free and ran off laughing at the fate of the snowball, who by then was just a wet spot on the sidewalk.
But in the snowball’s wake, flowers blossomed,
birds bathed and children splashed, barefoot. And the snowball sighed contentedly and gave itself to the sun.
Our
home is not this world. We’re just passing through, but this life jabs us and wears away at us anyway. We collect
“rocks.” It would be safest to find a patch of peace and just rest there, in comfort.
But
what chance do we have of fulfilling God’s purpose for us here, if we do that? What
chance of showing His love, of comforting and blessing the world He has sent us into if we shrink away into our own comfort
and safety?
I’ll tell you.
A
snowball’s chance.
Have you ever built something with someone who was
completely inept? Someone who kept dropping the hammer on your toe? Or worse, have you ever attempted to fix your roof while
your neighbor pelted you with rocks and insults?
I’ll bet it’s hard. Nearly impossible.
What if it’s not just you? What if you have
a crew—or several crews, for that matter? And they’re all family. Uncle John and Cousin Billy and his worthless
brother James, who squandered all his parents’ hard-earned money on one semester of partying at Cal-Tech.
Can you see it?
You, in your supervisor’s hard hat, trying
to coordinate feuding family into a unit…they, with one hand on the project and the other on garbage-can-lid-shields,
fending off the neighbors’ stones.
“It can’t be done,” you say?
“Impossible,” you gasp?
Nehemiah would beg to differ. He’s been there
repairing the walls of Jerusalem with a rag-tag crew of family members, holding
hammers and swinging swords. God commissioned the work. And the walls got repaired good as new.
God commissioned work to us, too: build up the church
so that you can feed the hungry. Comfort the mourning. Teach the young. Protect the old.
And the work is not easy. We’re not all accomplished
laborers. We have differing views on the finished project. Our neighbors pelt us with discouragement.
But, just as in Nehemiah’s day, the work can
be done.
It takes looking at the blueprints. Following the
supervisor the Architect hired. Overlooking what separates us and building on what unites us.
Oh, and there’s one more thing. Perhaps the
most important thing.
A thing that is as true now as it was for the crew
of Nehemiah.
A thing without which the whole project will fail.
A thing that brings together everything and everybody.
A thing that, as a church, we often shrug away.
Nehemiah 4:6 spells it out. There it is…we
can read it for ourselves.
“For
the people had a mind to work.”
I remember
walking into Clarence’s home, seeing him sitting quietly in his chair. I would put my hand on his shoulder and
he would jump. He always jumped. You could almost hear his heart pound.
He would reach into the air for my hand and I’d
write the first few letters of my name.
He would curl his fingers around mine, smile and
nod vehemently.
He kept his hands scrupulously clean because they
were his windows to the world.
You talked to Clarence by writing words with your
fingers onto his palm.
He could neither see, nor hear.
It didn’t matter to him if the lights
were not turned on at six, or if his visitors came in rags…he couldn’t see them.
He had no doorbell…he couldn’t have
heard it.
And he never locked his doors—if he had, no
one could have gotten in.
He trusted everyone.
He depended on the world to come to him because
he could not go to it, so he made himself completely vulnerable.
And come, it did.
Clarence corresponded with people all over the globe
through typewritten letters. He’d been to tea with Helen Keller. He’d held to his friends’ hands as he’d
climbed a mountain. He wrote a book.
In short, HE MATTERED.
Though he’s been gone for some time, I think
of Clarence often. He made a real impact on his part of the world. But I don’t see him seated at his typewriter. I think
of him fluttering his hands over his Braile Bible, oblivious to my presence. I see him moving his lips in prayer. And I see
a man so wholly open and trusting in God that he dared to be vulnerable to man.
And I wonder, in those moments of remembering Clarence,
which of us is really blind.
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BITING COMMENTARY
I chew my nails.
You too?
I never mean to do it…not really. But they chip. And rough
areas bother me, so I try to even them up with my teeth. And the more I chew, the rougher (and shorter) they get.
I have polish to put on them so I won’t chew. That takes
time.
I have a nail file to pull over the ragged parts to smooth them
out. (That takes effort.)
No, in the here and now, with my rough fingernails, I bite.
I chew at my kids, too.
I don’t mean to. But they have rough areas…chipped
places that need smoothing.
I could take the time to consider some appropriate praise that
would detract from the ragged places in their lives. I could polish them up. But that takes time I don’t have. We’re
all so busy, you know.
And I could work at the rough places gently, gradually filing
away the rough edges. But at the end of the day, I don’t have the energy.
So I chew. Every time they pass by, I take a small bite.
And you know what?
The more I chew,
the rougher the rough places get.
The shorter the time is that they spend with me.
And eventually they don’t pass by at all.
Short, stubby nails don’t need polishing or filing. We have
to grow them all over.
Just like kids.
And I have to remind myself all the time: don’t chew.

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Cookies For Santa
We always put out milk and
cookies for Santa,” he says. He looks more like an elf than a little boy. He has a Pee-Wee Herman face and an Alfalfa
hair style. He stands as tall as a five year old, and he’s eight.
“You do?” I ask,
making sure he knows I’m listening. Foster kids have this fear of disappearing. Of not mattering to anyone.
“Yeah, but the first
year we didn’t have any money so we couldn’t do it.”
“I see.”
“And last year, we
only had a little money, so we just put out milk.”
“So this year…”
“This year can I put
out cookies and milk for Santa, just like we do at home?”
Makes your heart ache, huh?
Mine, too.
Of course, he has a sizable
list for Santa. Nineteen presents is what he asked for. He doesn’t care what’s in them…it’s the quantity
that counts. He expects a lot out of Christmas. And he wants to make sure the old guy is in a good mood. Cookies and milk.
Me, too.
Oh, I’ve gotten to
the age when I don’t care what I get under the tree, how much or how little. And I don’t believe in Santa Claus.
But I expect
more than nineteen presents from Christmas.
I want a miracle or two.
I want Christmas to fix everything
for everyone, including myself.
I want Christmas to warm
my heart. To make me more sensitive and caring. To stuff my temper away with the snow batting I threw out this year when I
put up the Christmas village.
I want to get through this
year without needing to steal away for a private cry.
I want God to give me one
more minute to hold my son and tell him I love him.
And I want to wake up as
warm-spirited on the day after Christmas as I was the day before it.
Because I know that the day
after Christmas, bills will still be due.
People will still get sick.
Families will squabble.
I’ll blow up at something,
sometime, and say something I don’t mean.
And I’ll steal out
to the cemetery for a good cry.
We expect Christmas to change
our lives, and it usually doesn’t.
The “Chestnuts roasting
on an open fire” coziness doesn’t last.
So what did we think?
”Jesus is the Reason
for the Season,” we say. Just for this season?
Keep Christ in Christmas,”
churches post on their marquees. Just at Christmas?
Although on one night, God
sent a gift that changed the world, the world didn’t change in one night.
Christmas has to have a “take-away”
value, or it is of no use at all.
We need to sing, “Jesus
is the Reason,” and leave it at that.
And the marquee in front
of churches should read,” Keep Christ.”
I said I don’t believe
in Santa Claus, and I don’t. Not really. But I don’t “not believe,” either. I believe we prepare our hearts for Christmas.
We open ourselves to the
possibilities of Christmas:
That we will
act more like the people we wish other people were.
That we will really love
our brothers and our sisters and an enemy or two.
That God really does care
for us enough to come down and live among us.
We need to expect Him.
So I’m going to read
the Christmas story again, and then John nineteen, where the Bible tells me about the crucifixion. And finally, I’ll
read John 14: 1-3.
After that, I think I’ll
bake some cookies. I wonder which kind Old Santa likes.
NO EXCUSES
By Caryl Harvey
“Let us now go unto Bethlehem and
see…”
That’s what the shepherds
said after the angel told them about Jesus’ birth.
And they went.
In the nativity scenes, they’re
young and strong. He-men. But I’ll bet there was a gray head somewhere in the bunch. I’ll bet some of them had
arthritis. Heel spurs. A cold. I’ll bet at least one of them was a worry wart: who’s going to watch over those
sheep while we’re gone?
I’ll bet it cost them
something to go. It was a sacrifice.
But they didn’t believe
it was optional to go and “see this thing which has come to pass.”
So they went.
And God blessed them for going.
They were the first to see the newborn King.
They got close to God. Really
close. Close enough to touch the I Am.
And when they went back to their
sheep, the flock was where they left it. The lambs nestled close to the ewes. The rams stood guard. Their jobs were still there.
Until Jesus comes back, there
are going to be weddings and funerals and jobs to go to. Rich people and poor people and those in between, trying to make
a living.
Arthritis and heel spurs and
colds and fatigue.
But when we have the opportunity
to touch God, to get really close to the I Am,
We need to go to Bethlehem…and
see.
GETING DRAWERS TO SHUT
by Caryl Harvey
Every once in a while, God calls me “Cookie.”
As in, “Listen up, Cookie.” Or, "Hey Cookie, get back here. You know better than that.”
Yesterday, we celebrated our family Thanksgiving
early. I made turkey and mashed potatoes and gravy and stuffing and cinnamon apples. Our grown daughters brought their families
and their contributions to the meal…relish plates and sweet potato casserole and green bean casserole and salads and
rolls and fruit and three kinds of pie. A big meal.
And …to make a great day perfect,
we celebrated on a Sunday, which at our house means the teens and adolescents clean the kitchen after the meal.
They didn’t have to mess with the
food…we divvy up the leftovers before everyone goes home. But then, the kitchen needs cleaned again. And that’s
when God got my attention.
I was unloading the dishwasher when my
2 ½ year old granddaughter Hailey came into the kitchen. She saw the open dishwasher and made a bee-line for it, intent on
helping me. No, that’s not right exactly. Her mind was set on doing it herself. She reached for the flatware holder
and grabbed a handful of knives and forks. Half of them landed on the floor. (Five second rule.) She retrieved them. Her mommy stepped up behind her and tried to help. Hailey pulled away and threw the
silverware into the silverware drawer. Then she grabbed another handful from the dishwasher.
It was obvious to us she was determined
to do the job her way. (And honestly, I was laughing too hard to stop her.) We let her finish. But after she went home, someone had to sort out the drawer. It wouldn’t even close. And as our teen
granddaughter and I worked to straighten it, I distinctly (in my heart) heard God say, “Hey Cookie…”
“Yes Lord?”
“Notice anything about what just
happened with Hailey?”
“Yeah. She’s a hoot, isn’t
she?”
“So are you.”
“Beg your pardon, Lord?”
“So are you. You know that problem
you’ve been working on with one of your kids?”
“You mean…”
“Exactly.”
“Well, I’ve really been working
hard on it and I know we’ll make it. It’s just going to take a while and…”
“But what if you’re wrong about
how to handle it?”
“Then I’ll try something else.
I won’t let you, or this kid down Lord. I’ll fix this if it kills me.”
“I don’t think it will go all
that far, Cookie. But you’re forgetting something. ME. I can help with this problem, but you’ll have to stand
back and be willing to wait a bit.”
“But…”
And then I realized what God was saying.
I wanted things fixed. Right now. And in that frame of mind, I often say things I don’t mean…or at least that
I don’t think through.
I know never to make promises. I make them
anyway.
I know not to argue… it makes things
worse. I argue anyway…sometimes loudly.
I know not to give in if my boundaries
are reasonable. I give in for the sake of peace.
(And quiet.)
I take things personally and get my feelings
hurt.
In the long run, I mess things up. I need to pray about the problem. I need to sit back and “study on” the
issue. To anticipate the consequences of my actions. Because, when I just rush ahead and toss a handful of poorly thought out and even more poorly executed solutions
into the “drawer” of my kids’ lives, God (or someone He sends to clean up after me) has to sort things out.
Because, otherwise—by myself—I
can never get that “drawer” to shut.
A
Star Hung Too High.
They knew it was coming…Had known for ages
about the star that would guide them to the King. Numbers
24:17 says "I see him, but I don't see him now. I view him, but he isn't near. A star
will come from among the people of Jacob. A king will rise up out of Israel. NIRV
And the wise men got onto their camels and headed
across the desert.
The star guided them, we’re told, until it
stood over the manger.
I’ll bet they scratched their heads.
Checked their maps.
Tapped their GPS
systems to make sure they were working.
The star was so high…maybe too high. They’d
set their sights on a king and they found
a drooling, cooing toddler. He wasn’t what
they expected.
But the Bible says they worshipped. And left their
expensive gifts.
Would you have bowed? Would I? Would we have left
our presents there and gone our way, satisfied?
We want a king that’s more…well…kingly.
Not one whose cradle was a feeding trough. Whose
father was a carpenter.
Bethlehem’s
star had a higher calling. It was destined for greatness.
But if the star had stopped over a drafty old house,
would we have gone in?
If it had stood over a hospital, would we have entered?
If the star had stalled out over a soup kitchen,
would we have looked for God in the desolate faces there? Maybe not.
God’s Son doesn’t hang out in places
like that just waiting to be born into the hearts of man, does He?
You bet He does. Every day…and not just on
Christmas.
That star isn’t so high it can’t go
before you. And if it stops over an unexpected place, go in.
You just might find The King.
The Christmas War
We’ve seen the picture so many times, we know
it by heart. Mary kneels before the manger, Joseph stands guard behind her and an angel—a beautiful woman in a flowing
gown with outspread wings hovers overhead.
The annunciation shows the same sweet messenger
announcing that Mary has been chosen by God to bear His son.
Hogwash.
The day that Jesus was Born, Satan’s forces
massed to prevent His coming.
God sent an army of angels.
Don’t believe it?
Heavenly Host means an army. A multitude of supernatural
soldiers.
The shepherds saw them that day in the field outside
Bethlehem. “And suddenly, there was with the angel, a multitude of the heavenly
host…” Not a flock of flitting, fawning bird-like beings. An army appeared, backing up the angel who stood before the shepherds, and praised God.
They meant business. They were on patrol.
And they still are.
A battle is still raging in the supernatural world.
The war is over, Jesus has won…but, in spite of the outcome, the battle goes on.
Don’t be deluded. There are no “neutral
states.”
This is all-out altercation. Mortal combat. And
Jesus’ birth was the first salvo in a major offensive.
Tonight, there’s Peace On Earth” everywhere,
Satan assures.
Santa is coming. Sweet dreams to all.
Don’t be caught off guard.
“Joy to the World” is a battle hymn.
Rainbows and Promises
It was a trick of lighting, of course.
A crystal dangle on the ceiling fan diffused the
light and a small rainbow arched over the tiny wooden manger in the nativity scene.
The cows bathed in it. The shepherds had red-streaked
robes.
Mary and Joseph glowed as if in some neon new-age
crèche.
And it was gone as soon as the sun shifted positions.
It was out of place. What belonged was a starry
night.
Angels’ glow. Lanterns and torches illuminating
a stable.
But not a rainbow.
The rainbow belonged in Genesis, not in Luke.
It wreathed the ark. It colored the leaden skies
over Ararat and sealed God’s promise to Noah.
There would still be soggy, impossible days.
But the sun would follow.
Waves would still toss him on life’s sea.
But The Son would calm them.
The downpour of Genesis would become the Life spring
of Luke. God promised. And He sealed his promise with his rainbow.
Jesus was God’s promise. The Messiah. The
spotless Lamb to take away the sins of the world.
The Light to banish dark, soggy days.
The Hand extended to calm troubled waters.
So, I watch for the sun to again hit the crystal
and spread the rainbow over the manger scene.
God promised he’d send His Light.
And a promise is a promise.
QUOTES TO PONDER
From the old TV show “Happy
Days:”
Howard: “Well then. How are you gonna support my daughter? How are you gonna live? How are you gonna
eat?”
Chachi: “Mr C., after we're married something is bound to come along.”
Howard: “Yeah! Then you're gonna have to feed that,
too!”
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Kids can be a pain in the neck when they're not a lump in your throat. - Barbara Johnson
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Children aren't happy with nothing to ignore, And
that's what parents were created for.
- - - - Ogden
Nash
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Murphy's Laws of
Parenting
- A child's greatest period of growth is the month after
you've purchased new school clothes.
- An alarm clock is a device for waking people up, who don't
have small kids.
- Any child can tell you that the sole purpose of a middle
name is so he can tell when he's really in trouble.
- Anyone who says "Easy as taking candy from a baby" has
never tried it.
- Children are natural mimics who act like their parents,
despite every effort to teach them good manners.
- Children don't sleep ... they recharge.
- Children seldom misquote you. In fact, they usually repeat
word for word what you shouldn't have said.
- Cleaning your house while your kids are at home is like
trying to shovel the driveway during a snowstorm.
- Grandchildren are God's reward for not killing your kids.
- Gym clothes left at school in lockers mildew at a faster
rate than other clothing.
- If raising children was going to be easy, it never would
have started with something called labor!
- Kids really brighten a household. They never turn off
any lights.
- Leakproof thermoses - will.
- Refrigerated items, used daily, will gravitate toward
the back of the refrigerator.
- Shouting to make your kids obey is like using the horn
to steer your car and you get about the same results!
- Sick children recover miraculously when the doctor enters
the treatment room.
- Teach a child to be polite and courteous in the home and
when he grows up, he'll never be able to merge his car onto a freeway.
- The item your child lost, and must have for school within
the next ten seconds, will be found in the last place you look.
- The chances of a piece of bread falling with the grape
jelly side down is directly proportional to the cost of the carpet.
- The garbage truck will be two doors past your house when
the argument over "whose day it is to take out the trash" ends.
- The main purpose of holding children's parties is to remind
yourself that there are children more awful than your own.
- The shirt your child must wear today will be the only
one that needs to be washed or mended.
- The tennis shoes you must replace today will go on sale
next week.
- There are only two things a child will share willingly
- communicable diseases and their mother's age.
- Trying to dress an active little one is like trying to
thread a sewing machine while it's running.
- We childproofed our home three years ago and they're still
getting in!
- You spend the first two years of their life teaching them
to walk and talk. Then, you spend the next sixteen telling them to sit down and shut up.
- Your chances of being seen by someone you know dramatically
increase if you drive your child to school in your robe and curlers.
- Your children may leave home, but their stuff will be
in your attic and basement forever.
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OF course I'm a great grandparent. I practiced on your mom until I got it right.
LIfe is great in the Beyond
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